I believe that spanking achild is okay within certain limits. I am a product of spanking while I was growing up. Though I did not get them very often, however my brother did. I can say there was a little bit of fear that came with the spankings but that instilled in me reasons to behave to and listen to my parents. Obviously I didn't want to feel the pain of a spanking again. I never felt the type of fear where I believed my parent's would injure me or cause severe harm. I never felt any less love or hatred for either of my parent's. I never felt the want or need to contact the police. I feel as if that is a big concern with children today. They threaten to call the law on anyone who puts a hand on them. I feel they want an easy "out" …show more content…
My children still love me the same and they understand that with misbehavior comes consquences. All consequences hurt in some form or another. Time outs, taking away electronics, restriction from fun activities, are all painful in some respect or another in their minds. It took me growing up to understand something my mom always said, "this spanking hurts me more than it will ever hurt you." I thought that was a joke until I have disciplined my own children. It does have some sense of hurt in my heart to cause pain to them but I have to get them to understand that there must be a consequence involved in breaking the rules. That is part of life. Now let me do say that I have never spanked my kids right off. It has always been my last alternative of many verbal warnings. If you continue to disobey you have to deal with the end result. I however have to end this discussion with saying some parents should not be allowed to spank their children because they don't understand the difference between abuse or "beating" versus a simple spanking. The limitations have to be considered as to where you have contact on your child's body, the force and strength, and any objects used. We, as parents, have to know those limits when
Many see spanking as a form of parental rights and that the parent has the right to raise their child the way they consider most appropriate. Those in favor of spanking, also hold there is little evidence that moderate spanking is harmful. Further, many believe that discipline problems among children have recently increased, and partially attribute the boost to the decline of both parental authority and the use of spanking.
Spanking is a form of corporal punishment. Corporal punishment is the deliberate infliction of pain as retribution for an offence. It is usually done in act by an adult, parent, or guardian hitting the child or students buttock. The reason this is done is in response to bad behavior. Some countries have outlawed the act of spanking in every setting, but many allow it as long as it is done by a parent or guardian. As many people think spanking is an okay discipline, this one of the most controversial methods of disciplining your child. On one side some parents think spanking should never be done, and then there are parents who believe it is okay as long as it is done for a particular reason. To some
Spanking is known to be a form of corporal punishment in the eyes of many, a form of child abuse but too many others is a form of disciplining their children that have acted or behaved badly. Spanking consist of an adult striking a child or at times another adult on the buttocks for acting up in an unacceptable behavior. In this essay, I will be focusing more about children receiving this type of disciple. Is it right or wrong? A psychologist, Dr. Barbara Greenberg said in a CNN article, “Physical punishment instills a feeling of shame, it’s a very embarrassing thing to be spanked, and shame is one of the most intolerable feelings to experience." She says that it brings depression and anxiety to the child. On another hand you have Pope Francis telling the world that it’s ok to spank your child. USA today reports that the Holiness said parents "should be able to rectify their child's inappropriate action by imposing certain
It honestly was one of the best things for me and for children everywhere. I realize at some points of my childhood I was being tough to deal with and that’s when they did it. It was because I was being spoiled rotten and it helped get the point across that that kind of behavior in life will not be tolerated. It instilled in my brain that if I want something or if something didn’t go my way, then I can’t just sit there and complain about it, I have to get out there and do something about it. Things don’t just happen in life because you cry about it, you have to get them for yourself, and that helped me realize that at a young age. A lot of the kids you see these days do not get spanked, and that’s why a lot of kids do not respect their elders. It’s sad to see so many disrespectful kids this day in age. I think that spanking would have made a huge difference for those kids and their
Parents should not spank children regardless of their age or what they have done. Most parents I have seen do not verbally say “I spank my child” but it does occur more than what is seen. It is not an everyday occurrence for me to see a child being spanked in public. However it does occur more frequently in bathrooms or behind closed doors. I am willing to bet it happens a lot more than meets the eye. When I do see spankings in public it makes me uncomfortable. Even though it is an arrestable offence to hit a child a certain way, parents still do it.
Right off the top of my head I can proudly say that I believe in spanking a child for punishment when they are the right age. If a kid is disciplined too little they’ll think they can get away with anything throughout their home life and not respect you as their parent. If spanked too much the child will grow a fear to do anything that he or she thinks they are going to get in trouble for. So think for one moment, what would happen if you found a perfect balance of discipline for a child that would benefit both you and whoever the child might be. One important factor of the whole punishment concept is whether or not the child understands why they are receiving punishment for his or her actions. That’s why it’s important
Taking a look at children who were spanked, as adults they report having more anger. This in turn, increases the likelihood that they will spank their own children and puts them at risk for marital conflict or abuse. (Guidance for Effective Discipline, online) Is spanking your child really worth it? Many parents will say “this is the only way to teach them”, but look at all the hidden messages the parents are sending their child. Repeatedly spanking your child can cause aggression and agitation. This most certainly will lead to broken child-parent relationships. (Guidance for Effective Discipline, online) With all of these negative consequences and outcomes from spanking, it’s a wonder that so many parents still do it. According to A.M. Graziano in her article Subabusive Violence in Child Rearing in Middle-class American Families, “out of the 93% of parents who justify spanking, 85% say that they would prefer not to if they had an alternative in which they believed.” (Guidance for Effective Discipline, online) That being said, for that 85% of parents, there is hope. Clearly, society must find other ways to discipline today’s children because spanking only causes more
I believe that spanking should be banned because spankings begun in anger can escalate into abuse. Even though physical punishment may create immediate compliance, there are long-terms side effects. For instance, spanking can create poorer mental health for both child and parent, lower quality of parent- child relationships, higher levels of delinquency, and more antisocial behavior. In addition, spanking teaches children that violence is an acceptable form of solution to problems by promoting an example of violent and aggressive behavior. However, culture has played an important role shaping childrearing practices and the way how people in different culture discipline their children.The healthcare professionals will tell parents that spanking
After time, the children become helpless because they cannot get the pain to stop because they do not know the indecency of their actions (Family Times, 2011). As children mature, they begin to believe that their own parents do not respect them; the spanking was humiliating, so why should other people respect them?
Those that are on the pro-spanking side of the discussion believe that to be successful, a child must “learn to obey legitimate authority” and this is often done by “powerful love, but equally powerful discipline” (Rosemond, 2005). John Rosemond believes that in order to be effective, punishment must have three qualities: be punitive, provide emotional discomfort, and create a lasting memory; and he believes that spanking is the correct combination of those qualities. In the eyes of most pro-spankers, spanking is not physical abuse, but merely a tool to elicit respect. As aforementioned, Rosemond believes that love is always at the root of spanking (2005). As well, the belief is that this will raise well-behaved children that are not spoiled; since nowadays what is considered love is “nothing more than indulging, enabling, and rescuing”
I didn’t watch television that much as a child because I was to busy playing outside with my friends. If they talked about it I missed it. I never heard adults talk about child abuse either. Spanking should not be used for every little discrepancy. When I got on it was because I really needed it. Most of the time I just got yelled at or sent to my room. That was worse than the spanking because I wanted to go outside and play. There were no video games back then so staying in was like Chinese water torture. During the holidays I had family that would visit from New Jersey and we stayed in trouble. Unlike my cousins I would just take mine and get it over with. They would run from my grandmother and hope she would forget. Needless to say she never did. She would not chase them around but would get them when they least expected it. I would much rather take a spanking over being on punishment. That only last for a few seconds and I was ok with that. I don’t spank my kids often but when its time they know that I’m going to take care of business. My grandmother would use a switch or belt. I use my hand because I don’t need any outside help. The reason spankings are effective is because a child will think about the last one they got before they decide to do something wrong. In their mind they decide weather its worth it. Most of the time they will make the right choice. Some parents put kids on time out and hope that it works. My problem with that is there is no real punishment. If I do something wrong and I know all I am going to get is a time out I am doing what I want. Time out can be used but should not be the meat and potatoes of a child’s punishment. Its been a long time since I have had to spank one of my kids and all I have to do is remind them of the last one and there are no more problems. Some think that a spanking is just a quick fix. I disagree because
I used to be a strong believer that physical punishment is an acceptable but I have changed my opinion about it since becoming a parent. As a child I was spanked very few times and I do not feel that I am in any way damaged because of that. Spanking though is a very broad term so I guess I should clarify that I think it is justifiable to spank once in a great while with an open hand the well padded butt but it is unreasonable to keep a wooden spoon handy to punish every smallest mischief. Wooden spoons are made for cooking so lets not re-event our kitchen cutlery. I do believe in discipline but the problem with this is that usually the parent is angry or upset when children miss-behave, and anger , physical punishment and small children is
Spanking has been the preferred mode of punishing children most parents have opted for across cultures in the globe. For decades, most parents attest to the fact that spanking was the most effective tool in their possession with regard to ensuring discipline among the young ones. But over the last two decades, studies have been conducted that have adduced the negative impacts spanking has on children which has the propensity of impacting their teenage lives (Durrant and Ron). In a study conducted by Dubé (2017), the respondents were parents with children of ages ranging 15 to 25 months and tracked their progress to the fifth grade; the study revealed that children who were punished through spanking from the ages aforementioned, they
If used in the correct way, with only intentions of teaching a child the difference between what is right and what is wrong, spanking can be an acceptable way to do so in many different person's point of view. Some children are so stubborn it seems that almost nothing can be done to break their bad behaviors. With some other cases, spanking can not only scare a child enough to keep them from misbehaving again, but it can also help them to learn from their mistakes and help apply those learnings to
Discipline has always been an effective way to guide children. There are many forms of discipline that parents use and they all have an effect. Some work better for some children while other forms may work for another. Parents can sometimes be stuck with how they should discipline their children and they want to know more about what is effective. In terms of punishment one form that is commonly used is corporal punishment, which is punishment in the physical form. One form of corporal punishment is spanking. For years and years, the spanking debate has been a major parenting dilemma. There are those that believe that spanking is wrong and shouldn’t be used and there are others who believe that sometimes a good spanking gets the point