Parenting can be very difficult to those who are parents whether they are a mother a father or a guardian. Parents are obligated to find disciplining techniques that are suitable, and to the world, acceptable. Many people think that negative reinforcement is a good form of discipline, but what they don’t know is its causes increase in the behavior. There are two forms of discipline, as said above it talks about negative reinforcement. Negative reinforcement is where a parent thinks that they are helping the child by responding and dealing with the situation negatively showing the child to fight fire with fire. Reinforcement is often confused with punishment. Punishment is defined as showing the child that they were wrong by teaching them …show more content…
“Parental discipline is a method for teaching self-control and adapted, acceptable behavior (Papalia, Olds, & Feldman, 2008), where parents can opt for punitive as well as nonpunitive methods (Socolar et al., 2007; Socolar et al., 2005; Straus & Fauchier, 2007). In this light, disciplining children is regarded as a preventive and a corrective parental method by which parents try to limit the unacceptable behavior of their children” (Straus & Fauchier, 2007). “Studies have shown that parents tend to use largely nonpunitive methods in their parenting efforts” (Poljak, 2009; Socolar et al., 2007; Straus & Field, 2003; Straus & Stewart, 1999). The research on the Slovenian population by Poljak (2009) showed that 61% of the parents reported using at least one form of corporal punishment; 83% used at least one form of psychological aggression; one third of the parents reported having spanked, hit, or slapped their children in the past year; and one sixth reported having used a wooden spoon, brush, belt, or other object for exerting corporal punishment on their 10-year-olds. Research from the United States by Straus and Field (2003) showed that 88.6% of parents used at least one method of psychological aggression. According to research from Straus and Stewart (1999), 43.1% of parents reported using their hands to spank their 9- to
Most parents have debates in whether "to spank or not spank' when it comes to their children discipline. However, the first and the most common response of many parents are to spank, then probable trouble back in their mind and ask themselves, did my response was okay? Many parents do not even bother to stop and think through their actions. Commonly corporal punishment comes out of hands; it is not disciplined anymore it becomes abuse. All parents have their tradition of discipline and probably believe is the correct one, because they were taught that way, some are okay, but others are “NOT” correct. Although some of the parents blame their own child, themselves or whatever is happening around them. The parents need to discipline their child in a way that is not
Child discipline is an important part of parenthood. It is challenging for adults to manage children’s behaviors and find the correct lessons that will benefit their children. According to the research performed by Flynn (1998), most parents in the United States agree that "it is sometimes necessary to discipline a child with a good, hard spanking" (p.26). Socolar et al. performed research which agreed that “corporal punishment of children persists—roughly fifty percent of the parents of toddlers in the United States use corporal punishment as a regular method of disciplining their children.” (as cited in Gershoff, 2010, p.32). That is not to say that physical punishment is the solution as it can stop a behavior immediately but the results
Her credentials are professional nanny with “twenty-five years experience of helping families." Her stake in this issue is to help “parents transform the troublesome behavior of children and bring more peace and harmony to families.” She aims this book at parents of toddlers and young children. Her purpose is to persuade readers that discipline is not a bad thing and inform readers the proper way of implementing effective discipline techniques. She writes in an effort to “change that perception here and now because… parents’ inner conflict over the idea of discipline has led to lax, inconsistent, and ineffective methods of disciplining children, resulting in their being raised without proper limits and boundaries, and ultimately without respect, empathy, and compassion for others.” She claims that by implementing her five toddler rules parents will head in the right direction to creating “well-behaved respectful individuals.” She argues as related to the topic, discipline absolutely must not be physical… I’m credited in Great Britain with being responsible for 67 percent of parents now choosing not to spank, by helping them learn effective nonphysical discipline techniques. She reports a statistical ratio of parents who were spanked as children and currently claim to spank their children (sharp decline). She reports her findings resulted because the adulds who recieved corporal punishment as
Many psychologists throughout history have indulged in studies related to parenting behavior and how children are affected from such behavior. The work of Diana Baumrind, which is considered to be one of the most influential and well-studied theories of parenting behavior, was the first to identify three styles of parenting (Sclafani 44). These styles of parenting are called authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive. This paper will further explain descriptions of these styles and the typical behaviors of children as a result of each style. This paper will also provide insight on the parenting style I was raised on along with my thoughts on types of discipline I might use in the
Parental discipline has several distinct effects on children’s lives, but at the end, all have the same objective. However, the result might be different from the expected. Every child is different and requires a different method of discipline. Physical discipline might be an option which parents might consider to put in use.
As part of their natural development, children sometimes challenge or test parental and adult expectations and authority. Sometimes children choose to misbehave in order to gain attention. To the child, the attention, whether good or bad, is worth whatever consequence they receive. This is significant in the growth process of children, yet it should not be without consequence. Discipline and consequences are how children learn right from wrong. Providing appropriate discipline to children is one of the most essential responsibilities as a parent, and providing consistent and positive discipline helps children grow into responsible adults.
There are many varied ways that parents, childcare centers, and schools use to provide positive guidance for children. In what might be called the flip-side, there is also a wide range of views on how children should have discipline applied.Together , these two areas of dealing with children is loosely referred to as child guidance. It would be good to give a professionally acceptable definition of what child guidance is. Child guidance is defined as “a contrived methods for external control as well as interaction with extension of development of naturally unfolding internal mechanisms” (Book ) To make the matter of guidance a bit more challenging; a parent, caregiver or teacher must also know what is the developmentally appropriate practice
Parental discipline has several distinct effects on children’s lives, but at the end, all have the same objective. However, the result might be different from the expected. Every child is different and requires a different method of discipline. Physical discipline might be an option which parents might consider to put in use.
The theory of discipline has been debated for decades. Arguments over how it should be carried out and how harsh it should be has been discussed. One aspect of discipline has been shoved into the dark, the effect on the child. No matter how much it is spoken of children remember what happened to them in their childhood. Whether they were pleasant or not can lead to problems later in life. One debate that shall soon be settled deals with the spanking of children.
Legally, discipline is defined in Oxford Dictionary as, “The practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.” Whereas abuse is defined as, “To treat with cruelty or violence, repeatedly or in such a way as to cause damage or harm.” Abuse can very easily be met when spanking, verbal warnings can even time outs get out of hand. When disciplining children it is best to do so when the parent and the child are calm. When the child has just done something completely infuriating it is best to put them in their room or crib by them self so both you and your child can calm down. When handling a situation right when it happens can cause things that the parent might regret after words. Even just placing the child in time out can get out of hand. If the child is repeatedly getting up is best to either keep your composure or put the child in their room or crib. The parents do not want to get to the point out of their control where they will begin slamming the child into time out again and again just because they are frustrated of their child’s actions. There is a very fine line between discipline and abuse if the parents ever feel like a situation is getting out of their control it is best to separate themselves from the situation to calm down and return later when both the parent and the child are more level headed. As said by Jeff Schneider “If any kids start whining or
I looked for articles in an online parenting-advice magazine called Aha! Parenting. The article I chose is called 10 Steps To Guide Children Without Punishment and was written by Laura Markham (2015). The child development aspect concerned by this article is child discipline. The main idea of the article is that parents should not punish their children, and that instead, parents should stay calm and kind when children misbehave. According to the author, this is because punishments are ineffective at changing behavior, and in fact create even more misbehavior. I will critically evaluate the advice in this article using the class teachings and relevant literature.
Another positive that comes with parental discipline, is how the kid learns that actions have consequences. Learning that actions have consequences is an essential part of growing up. It’s a basic fact that everyone should know, yet some people have yet to learn it. The reason for this is because they weren’t taught it by the parents because they didn’t discipline the child. Every lesson in life is supposed to be taught by the parent, but when there is no need to teach them about consequences because the parent doesn’t give them, the child ends up never learning about this basic lesson. A prime example for why they need to know this
Teaching a child must begin very early in their life. Often times, this teaching process must be enforced through spanking, spatting, smacking, swatting, or paddling. In the end, physical punishment may be the result of other unsuccessful parenting strategies which began as scolding, yelling, or reasoning (Holden, 2002). Thus, resorting to physical punishment in order to gain an immediate response from the child for unacceptable behavior, quickly educates a child on his or her boundaries.
The use of corporal punishment has been a principal component of parental discipline throughout history (Greven, 1991), it has also been the focus of debate within psychological research for a substantial amount of time (Caselles & Milner, 2000, Glueck & Glueck, 1950, Sears, 1961).
The topic of discipline and parenting has many social implications as well as health implications. According to Flaskerud (2011), the method of discipline influences future social skills and interpersonal interactions in an individual’s life, both in childhood and adulthood. The author informs that there was an increased trend in physical outbursts in children who were spanked as a form of discipline, as well as an increased risk for spousal abuse later in life (Flaskerud, 2011). Many parents have inquired about which route to take regarding parenting and discipline, and these parents may seek help from their child’s healthcare provider. Therefore, it is important that the pediatric provider be well informed regarding parenting methods and their effectiveness in influencing children to become thriving members of society.